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The last nine months of my life have been true testaments of my strength. Life is always filled with ups and downs. I’ve known this for 30 years. But it really threw me a curve ball and dealt me cards I never knew I’d experience. In just 9 months, I got to experience one of the happiest moments of my life and the most gut wrenching and heartbreaking moments of my life. I got engaged and I lost my father in a span of 9 months. Now, I’m just trying to pick up the pieces and continue this new chapter.
Here are 3 Ways I’ve Learned To Keep Going:
Talk It Out
There’s no sense in keeping feelings bottled up. With the right person, I think talking out sad feelings and being vulnerable are the best ways to heal. With my situation, it has been extremely conflicting. On one hand, I’m ecstatic to start this new chapter with the love of my life – someone who I’ve been with for almost 8 years now. But at the same token, planning a wedding and feeling the sting of my dad not being here hurts like no other. What has helped me, is to be as honest as possible. I talk to my mom and my fiancé regularly and share those conflicts with them. For instance, as simple as ordering tuxes for the guys, the salesperson [ not knowing me from Adam] said innocently, “If you add a seventh person, you can get a discount.” The only seventh person I knew would have been my dad.
Embrace The Happy Moments
It hasn’t all been a depressing experience. There’s no harm in having enjoyment even though someone you truly love is no longer here. I make sure my fiancé and I have regular date nights and continue to strengthen our relationship. Having a life partner means going through all the ups and downs of life together. I’m blessed to have someone to share all those moments with. I’m also grateful my fiancé was able to ask my dad for his blessing. He was able to spend 7 years with my dad and although I wish he was able to have more time; I’m grateful he had experienced what he could. So, although my dad isn’t physically here, he’s watching from the best seat in the house – heaven. And so, we better give him the best show ever – right?
I’m also grateful my fiancé was able to ask my dad for his blessing. He was able to spend 7 years with my dad and although I wish he was able to have more time; I’m grateful he had experienced what he could.
Understand Life Is Always Changing
My dad was someone who I thought would be with us and experience everything forever. But I know that isn’t the reality. We all have our set time here on Earth. We all aren’t guaranteed anything. What I try to practice is to live life to my fullest and experience all that I can. I truly know we will be together with my dad in heaven eventually. I’m blessed to have so much to look forward to in just this year alone. I’m getting married in May and will grow a family of our own soon. We only have one life to live – so why not live it up?
Conclusion
2022 has a lot of amazing things in store for me. With the wedding planning in full swing and only a few more months to go – I’m excited to finally marry the love of my life. Although the planning process has become jaded through grief, I simply hope with time, will come healing. I’d like to thank Natalie of Examine This Moment for allowing me to guest post on her blog today and share these thoughts. If you are interested in intentional living, declutter or self growth topics, I’d love it if you stopped by my blog – Mind Beauty Simplicity.
-B
Read more guest blogposts from Mind, Beauty, Simplicity:
“BEING FURLOUGHED FROM MY JOB LED ME TO A HAPPIER LIFE“ “WHY IT’S IMPORTANT TO FIND JOY IN THE SIMPLE MOMENTS“
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I love this post. I love the message that despite what trials we go through there is always some good to be found.
Yes, I agree with you. Good was found through difficulty. 🤗
Thank you for taking a moment to read and sharing your thoughts.
thanks for reading, Helen!
Thank you so much for sharing taking a moment to read and share your comments. You are right there is a silver lining even through trying times. Thank you @mindbeautysimplicity for guest writing your vulnerable story for others to be encouraged by.
This was a really good read, with such a heart jerking story. But a very valuable message, I’m happy to hear your learning to move through life, and plan the important things while still healing.
Thank you so much! I find vulnerable posts to be quite therapeutic. Thanks for reading.
Great post! Life can be crazy and filled with so many emotions all at once! The silver linings are crucial to find and keep on going!!
Exactly! Thanks for reading!
Thank you so much for taking a moment to read and share your comments. Yes, there is always a silver lining in the mist of pain. I really appreciate @mindbeautysimplicity blogger for sharing this heartfelt guest post.
Life is so full of challenges. Glad to see that you found the silver linings, and now you can start the healing process. And congratulations on your wedding.
Thank you 💕💍😊
Thank you so much for taking a moment to read and for sharing your encouraging words. My guest blogger @mindbeautysimplicity shared some honest and encouraging words after going through this difficulty time.
Talking it out can be so cathartic. It doesn’t have to be traditional therapy, it can be a trusted friend, but it absolutely helps you process your thoughts and feelings.
Thank you for taking a moment to read and share your comments. Yes, talking it out definitely helps, especially when you have good listeners. I appreciate @mindbeautysimplicty for writing this guest post.
Yes very true! Thanks for reading!
Wow…I cannot believe how much this hit home for me. I lost my dad 3 months before my wedding, and struggled for a long time with my grief. I’m so sorry for your loss – I know how devastating it is to lose your dad❤️
I’m so sorry about your dad. Congratulations on your wedding. Thank you for taking a moment to read and share your comments. I really appreciate my guest writer for sharing so honestly about her trying moments and overcoming them. 🤗
Beautiful post here. Life can be challenging but digging deeper into the mind reveals we access an endless source of peace and strength, amid any worldly change. Birth, death, marriage….digging deep within is the way to process these emotions.
Ryan
Thank you Ryan for taking a moment to read and share your thoughts on the guest post who has gone through some very difficult moments. ☺️
What a genuine and meaningful way to honor all those you care about. I am sorry for your loss. It is evident your dad left a special legacy in you and I wish you the very best in your future. Thank you for being real and for sharing your story.
Thank you so much for taking time to read and sharing your comments on my guest post by Mind-Beauty-Simplicity I sincerely appreciate her sharing from her heart. I believe it is bringing encouragement to many. I will extend your kind thoughts to her.
I’m so sorry to hear of your father’s passing. The message is beautiful, even in times of sadness God is there for us. Sending you prayers for continued comfort and strength!
Thank you Natasha for reading and sharing your kind comments on this guest post written by Mind-Beauty-Simplicity . She shared very heartfelt moments and I appreciated her post. I will extend your thoughts and prayers.
I’m sorry to hear of your dad’s passing. Life is always hard but keeping a positive mindset and perspective can make the tough times that bit easier.
Thank you for your kind words regarding my guest, ‘B” at Mind Beauty Simplicity. She shared this very heartfelt post regarding her father and getting married.