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At times, we may want to express ourselves in a way where we believe we are right and believe that others are wrong. Perhaps, we feel we have the right to prove ourselves and our worth. Maybe, you did not want to say anything because you were concerned how it may be received. Whatever the reason, we must recognize when the matter is leading to a quarrel. Let’s take a moment to discuss, “Drop the Matter.”
Why We Feel the Need to Argue
Have you experienced a situation like this? Perhaps you were having a discussion and felt like you were not being heard. Maybe the other person or people made you feel like your feelings did not matter. If so, how did you handle it? What we have to say is just as valid as the other person or people in the discussion. It is important that we make ourselves clear in these moments and continue in a respectful way to be heard and understood.
Is It Worth Fighting For?
Learning to drop the matter takes strength and wisdom. You should not feel as though you have to argue with someone to be heard. It can become difficult when you are made to feel your words do not matter. However, you must pay attention and ask yourself, Is this worth me getting into a disagreement over? Perhaps you feel this has happened too frequently, and it may lead to a heated argument. It is important that you make the most of these times to establish your feelings and
set proper boundaries where and when necessary.
How to Drop the Matter with Wisdom
Perhaps the issue needs to rest for a little bit, so it will not lead into a massive debate and bigger dispute unnecessarily. Maybe you feel as though you made yourself as clear as you could and still do not feel as though you are being heard. It is in these moments you must decide: Is this worth me being in a quarrel? How should I move past this?
Proverbs on Avoiding Quarrels
There are a couple of proverbs I sincerely appreciate. These words bring wisdom and encouragement. In Proverbs 17:14, we read, “The beginning of strife is like letting out water [as from a small break in a dam; first it trickles and then it gushes]; Therefore abandon the quarrel before it breaks out and tempers explode.” It is clear that in any argument/dispute/quarrel, there are warning signs because something is wrong in how you are being made to feel. What we do about it is what matters most.
You must pay attention and ask yourself, Is this worth me getting into a disagreement over?
Setting Boundaries Without Arguments
After handling it in this manner with wisdom and proper judgement, you can reflect on your part. I encourage you to consider the choice to drop the matter because you may now be facing a further uncomfortable place with a bigger dispute. You may not have thought it would turn out that way, but when dealing with matters like this, you are facing an array of emotions. So using proper judgment is important.
Conclusion: Know When to Drop the Matter
I also think it is important to acknowledge what is worth fighting for and what you should just move past. If you believe it is necessary to discuss a matter, please do so. Pay attention to how it is being handled and decide if the matter needs to be dropped.
Keep in mind what Proverbs 29:22 tells us, “People with quick tempers cause a lot of quarreling and trouble.” Do you want to be that person who is known to be quick-tempered and easily offended, always starting arguments? Or would you prefer to be known as someone who speaks their mind respectfully and knows how to drop a matter when necessary?
Now take a moment and share have you needed to ‘drop a matter’ before a dispute broke out? Did you handle it well or was it difficult? There is wisdom in know when and how to drop a matter and not let it go into an argument. As we learn over time, we recognize and decide what is worth talking more about and what needs to let go of Thank you for sharing your story. Let’s continue to bring to encouragement to others together.
Don’t let anyone or anything make you believe you are stuck.
There is always another way.
Keep pressing on and find it.
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Great article! So important yet not always easy to do! This is a great way to bring attention to this.. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you Andrea for taking moments with me to read and share your thoughts. Definitely not easy but important.
Great post! It is very important to know when to pick and choose our battles. One hurtful thing said could create a domino effect.
Thank you for taking moments with me to read and share your thoughts. You are right we must be careful to recognize how one hurtful thing can domino into others.