There are moments in life when we may not feel as though something was taken cared of properly. Any time you are dealing with conflicts, you also must pay attention to your response. If something does not feel settled, this can be as a result of unsolved issues. Let’s take a moment to discuss, “Unresolved Conflict.”
When it comes to important relationships in your life, this topic about unresolved conflict may be important to you. Let’s be honest, you may have some things right now that you have to work on to resolve to maintain a healthy relationship. Without open and honest communication, you may not find this too easy to achieve.
The truth is that we may not always agree on everything in our relationships, however, we must learn to agree to disagree in order to maintain a healthy respectful relationship. It is amazing how we can allow our emotions to get the best of us at times when we are in a disagreement. We must learn to accept that ‘being right’ may not always be the most important thing in resolving conflict.
When we live with unresolved conflicts, we set ourselves up for the effects of it. Because it can become like a festering wound that can bleed out into the lives of others and begin to impact our health too. When you are dealing with matters that are not settled you might begin to feel more drained in your energy. You may find yourself thinking too often about it and it can consume your life if you are not careful. These issues can lead to other issues too. You may find yourself more worried, anxious, angry, fearful, aggressive, stressed, and dealing with other health issues. You also may notice that you withdraw more and could even become more violent and begin to have self-destructive behaviors.
This is why it is important to pay attention to issues that do not feel as though they are finished. Too often when you are in a conflict it can remain unresolved for different reasons. These can include emotions, incompatible egos, respect, and status issues, the importance we attach to conflicting interests, carelessness, misunderstanding, misinformation, outside interference, and various other factors that make any conflict resolution difficult.
Another aspect that is vital is to decide, ‘Do I believe it is necessary to resolve this and how can I try in order to not allow it to affect me in a negative manner?’
Here are some things to consider when wanting to make sure you work at resolving conflict appropriately:
1-Demonstrate a genuine willingness to work on resolving the issue/s
2- Prepare for compromises and learn to accept that you may not always agree on everything
3-Become a good listener and pay attention to the other side, you may recognize that you are more easily able to resolve or even avoid many problems.
4-Work on your trust and reliability. I like to say, “Mean what you say and say what you mean.”
5-Pay attention to the way you communicate with each other. Be more considerate as you speak to one another. Do not be so selfish in your words and actions.
6-Decide not to close the door on resolving the conflict
7-It may be necessary to get a peacemaker to come help with resolving an issue/s
8-Be firm and not hostile in order to resolve the conflict
9-Decide that you will be patient and persistent in resolving the issues causing conflict.
10-Pray and decide to work on obtaining a proper perspective. Remember: We are not always right, and it may be important to recognize why we are having misunderstandings rather than deciding to prove we are right no matter what.
When it comes to unresolved conflicts there is much to consider. We may find that we cannot just leave these matters undone, especially if they begin to impact our health and other things in our lives. We must make the choice to work on taking care of unsettled matters. It is important to forgive and not allow any bitterness to take root in our hearts. Keep in mind that you may not always get an apology but working on doing better in our relationships can be a very important aspect in taking care of neglected areas. Decide how important is the relationship and any of the matters that are unresolved and purpose to do better. If necessary, get someone to help be a middle person who will not take sides but assist in resolving in a peaceful manner.
Tell me, do you have unresolved conflicts in your life right now? How do you plan on working on them? Have you allowed it to fester, and is it now affecting your health and other things in your life? I encourage you to work on these conflicts and get help in doing so too if necessary to obtain peace and better overall health. I look forward to hearing your stories. Let’s encourage others together.
Don’t let anyone or anything make you believe you are stuck.
There is always another way. Keep pressing on and find it.
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Great post! I really like your tips and will definitely be using them the next time I need to resolve any conflict. Thank you!
Thank you Michelle for taking moments with me. I am glad to hear you will implement these suggestions.
These are great tips to help with unresolved conflicts. I’m fortunate, my husband and I don’t stay mad and like things resolved quickly. These are great tips to help work through conflicts properly.
I am so glad you were encouraged Debbie. Definitely it is a blessing to work on resolving issues quickly. Some things that are not discussed can become serious hurt and deep pain which can lead to medical issues. Thank you so much for taking moments with me to read and share your thoughts.
Enjoyed this post. I especially love the quote, “It is amazing how we can allow our emotions to get the best of us at times when we are in a disagreement. We must learn to accept that ‘being right’ may not always be the most important thing in resolving conflict.” I got into a horrible disagreement with a friend and we both wanted to be “right.” I had to step back and say, let’s agree to disagree. It’s not worth losing a friendship over not seeing eye to eye.
Thank you so much for sharing your real life experiences when it comes to resolving conflicts. Stubbornness to want to prove a point can seriously bring unnecessary serious wounds. Learning to agree to disagree is so important to every relationship especially where there is conflicts. Thank you so much for reading and sharing your comments.
Very insightful post! This is a topic that always seems so easy from the outside, but when you’re the one experiencing it, it can feel like an unsurpassable mountain. It truly can take some hard work, and definitely takes some self reflection & willingness to compromise and forgive. Thank you for sharing!
I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this topic. You are right it takes both to be intentional in compromising and forgiving to maintain a healthy relationship. There really is no relationship when only one is working hard at it. Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts.
Great post, thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Thank you for taking moments with me to read and share your thoughts Ana.
Thank you for these helpful tips for dealing with unresolved conflicts. It’s so important to deal with problems before they get completely out of control. I agree also that it’s so important to prepare for compromises and learn to accept them.
Yes, you are right, it is important to deal with things properly before they grow too large. There may be some things that we may not agree on, but to establish an understanding is better than making assumptions. Thank you so much for taking moments with me to read and share your thoughts.
Very interesting! Just what I needed to read today.
I am so glad you stopped by and took some moments with me to read and share your thoughts.
I think after trying and if the conflict doesn’t resolve you need to be prepared to walk away and let it go. Letting go can be really difficult but necessary.
Definitely Melanie. There are some unresolved conflicts that you must accept are too difficult to maintain a healthy relationship. These are definitely moments that would require us to decide to “let go” and move on for our overall mental health and health in general. I had an entire conference in August about “Letting Go” available on @resplendencyinc YouTube channel. Thank you for taking moments with me.
Certain situations/types of unresolved conflict can definitely hold us back from moving forward, as they allow challenging emotions to linger that can impact our mental health. Finding a way to work through this could be exactly what we need — great post!
Thank you so much Molly for reading and sharing your thoughts regarding unresolved conflicts. I agree considering the impacts of this is important. Learning to navigate through in a healthy manner will make a big difference. I appreciate you sincerely for taking moments with me.